Who Ruins the World?……. Girls!
Beyonce’s 2011 hit song asked, “Who runs the world?” Then she came back with her own answer; “girls.” Her song became the 2011 anthem of female pride. Many women actually believed in Beyonce’s message of feminine pride and preeminence. Young women flocked to stores around the country, iTunes, Amazon, and many other websites to secure Beyonce’s message of female dominance.
Beyonce may have been successful in lining her pocket with the proceeds from impressionable young women who have little understanding of how the world works by dazzling them with her Siren’s chant but the statement is, at best, devoid of truth. In reality, nothing in her message could be further from the truth. I’m sorry ladies; I hate to be the one to burst all of your girlish bubbles but GIRLS DO NOT RUN THE WORLD! In fact, girls RUIN the world.
As a disclaimer, I am in no way against the empowerment of women, nor do I question women’s value, significance, or contribution to our society and history. Women are the very heartbeat of our existence. It’s the “girls” who are the problem.
This writer’s definition of a “girl” is; a simple, immature, female child who is trapped in the physical body of a woman. It is this simple immaturity and stupidity that plagues our society and perpetuates even more negative behavior in response to it.
There are even national and international platforms that promote this deleterious behavior. TV shows such as “Basketball Wives,” “The Real Housewives of Atlanta, New Jersey, Beverly Hills, New York, “Tiny & Toya,” “Frankie & Neffe, “I Love New York,”and many others mindless, talentless, mind-numbing displays of coonery, show “girls” at their best-or absolute worst.
The thought of impish, foolish, immature, drama filled, “girls” displaying the most senseless and incorrigible behavior and millions of “wanna be” girls are tuning in faithfully to watch them is completely sickening. How is it that their egregious behavior is deemed entertainment? It sets us back 400 years! The individuals (can’t even call them characters) on these shows are influencing a generation of young-and some old impressionable women to engage in this behavior they see on TV. Television shows of this type create false images, unrealistic expectations, and detrimental stereotypes, especially to African-American women.
These “girls” on TV don’t model maturity, intelligence, magnanimity, or character. They don’t exemplify self-sufficiency, grace, strength, or true beauty. They don’t typify a strong connection with God, or a sense of community or the loving tradition known within the African-American community. They don’t possess true giftedness, talent, or skill that would inspire young women to follow their dreams. Instead, they litter our culture with undesirable stereotypes. This litter finds itself blowing over into our relationship, jobs, churches, social circles, and other cultural mediums.
This drama filled behavior subconsciously grows in the recesses of impressionable minds and replicates itself, like a computer virus. It’s a plague that is subconsciously ruining the great legacy of strength, honor, and perseverance that so many women in history have worked tirelessly to secure. Every moment of one of their circuses called “shows” is viewed by a woman, it is a potential undermine of the value of real women to society. In essence, “girls” ruin the world.
Real women help build strong communities; “girls” are just common and have no sense of unity.
Real women network at social events; “girls” live on social networks.
Real women always desire to go the next level with great things in store; “girls” always desire to go the next store in a shopping mall.
Real women are a blessing to their men; “girls” are a curse to everyone.
Real women face life’s wars with the knowledge they find in books; girls start Facebook wars.
Real women occupy their man’s top position; “girls” position themselves just to have a title.
Real women pick their battles; picking fights with other “bats” will take a toll on “girls.”
Real women know how to play their position; “girls” can only switch positions under the sheets.
Real women can run anything from a family to a corporation; “girls” can only run two things; their mouth, and everybody away.
Men watch, admire, and desire real women; “girls” watch other “girls” on TV and add mire and muck to their minds.
Real women turn men’s heads and hearts; “girls” turn men’s stomachs.
Real women try men’s suggestions; “girls” try men’s patience.
A man will love a real woman until he dies; a “girl” will act like she is going to die if a man doesn’t love her.
A real woman will rule her man’s world rather than run it. To “run” it means that she is doing all of the work and engaging herself in all of the operations necessary to keep his world going smoothly. Meanwhile, HE is still ruling his world. To rule means that she is his queen that sits on the throne of his heart and commands his attention, devotion, faithfulness, love, compassion, and commitment. He will gladly give it to her while on bended knee.
Girls can RUN the world but, when they RUN out of time, RUN out of options, Run out of ideas, RUN from responsibility, and RUN that world into the ground, they will RUN to the real woman and seek her wisdom and knowledge.
Terry Pep Carter